Dating rules have changed, but the jury is still out on whether or not the changes are for the best. Ladies are now the pursuers instead of the pursued. This change will affect the dynamics of relationships and marriages.

This new way of finding a mate goes against the process laid out in scripture. Don’t get it twisted, the, Bible is our blue print for life. His word is irrefutable so, it’s pointless to second-guess it.

God is a God of order. As believers, we are striving to be more like Him so it’s in our best interest to maintain order in every aspect of our lives, especially in our personal relationships.

Our first love should be Jesus Christ, and we should be consumed with pleasing Him. If He isn’t first in our lives, then we are setting ourselves up for failure. Sometimes we are blind to the idolatrous relationships we have with our significant others.

The promise in the word of God is that if we seek Him first, He will add all these things to us. What are all these things? Having God’s favor in your life brings tremendous blessings.

Our heavenly father does all things well, so if He’s purposed to bless you with the gift of a husband or wife, it will come to past. Men were designed to be leaders, and believe it or not God knew what He was doing. It’s not up to females to critique the order God gave to us. It’s God, Man, Woman etc.

Society will lead women to believe that it’s alright to take an aggressive role in starting a relationship. You can’t be so desperate that you are willing to step out of the will of God.

The problem here is patience. Women who do not want to wait for the man to be the initiator, may be establishing a pattern for the future that doesn’t line up with God’s order.

Enough of the women’s lib mentality, it’s time to go back to God’s word and follow what it says. It’s also time for men to grow up. Dating should not be treated like it’s a buffet, where one man is involved with six or seven women at the same time. Switch to God’s design for a relationship and you’ll reap all of the blessings He’s promised.

By Michelle McAllister, Writer, The Church Online